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I think many people would agree that leadership and parenting have a lot in common. There are also SO many parenting books out there, where do you start? Here are 7 parenting questions to ask yourself as a leader in your family raising future leaders.

This article focuses on parenting advice to develop your kids as leaders. There are many leadership traits and tools that can be used to help you develop your own parenting style. With these questions, hopefully, you can help your kids realize their full potential as well as develop them into future leaders.

Below are a few questions to ask yourself and your spouse, as leaders of your family. These questions will hopefully help you identify areas you could improve upon your leadership as a parent and identify your parenting style. There are affiliate links in this post. This means if you click on a link and make a purchase, I might receive a commission at no additional cost to you.

7 Parenting Questions to Ask Yourself (when raising leaders)

These are not all-inclusive, nor do they exclude anything on purpose. They are simply here to start a conversation. They are here for you to use as a jumping point to discuss with your spouse. They are here to get you thinking about what you are doing. One of the greatest parenting tips I’ve heard is,

As long as you are parenting with intention, you are doing it right.

Have a goal and a plan, that way if you’re not moving in the direction you want, you can intentionally CHOOSE to change that plan. If you don’t know where you’re going, how can you re-orient to what’s important?!? Can I get an Amen??? Okay, here they are!

5 Rules to Be a Successful Mom

1. What is your “Parenting Intent”?

How do you want to describe your kids when they grow up? If you could only pick three goals for your kids when they grow up what would they be? We attended a parenting class based on the series Parenting on Purpose from a church in Alabama called Church of the Highlands, and during that series, the pastor challenged us to find our three goals as parents. He said for his family they were, “Love God. Love his parents. Love the church.” I LOVE this because of it’s simplicity and because these goals bring everything back to what’s really important.

2. Do you promote teamwork in your family?

Is collaboration valued more than competition between siblings and family members? Do you delegate responsibilities to your kids to teach them about responsibility and prepare them for an independent life? Responsibilities to delegate are: household work, cooking, yard work, or finances. I am currently reading* Smart Money Smart Kids: Raising the Next Generation to Win with Money, by Dave Ramsey and it’s been an inspiration to teach my kids how to treat money smartly. If you’d like a free printable chore chart. Grab it in the Freebies Library!

3. Do you set priorities for your family?

After you’ve identified your “parenting intent,” it’s time to look at specific priorities for your family. A follow-on question is – do your actions reflect your priorities?

4. Are you teaching decision making skills?

Are you teaching problem analysis skills? Or are you solving the problems for them? Have they learned how to analyze the data and look at the big picture?

5. Are you authentic with your kids?

Do you hide ALL issues from your kids or do you show them that you aren’t perfect either? Do you apologize when you do something wrong? Are you yourself around your kids or do you pretend to be someone that you are not because you THINK that’s the way you should be?

6. Do you build trust with your kids?

Do you promote honesty in your home or perfectionism? Do what you said you would do. Your kids notice. Your words matter. Because your words are part of your integrity.

7. Do you consider the individual needs of each child?

Do you apply blanket parenting or is each child appreciated for their individual strengths and weaknesses? If you have older kids, do you mentor and coach them appropriately?

If you think of any other parenting questions to ask yourself to develop future leaders, feel free to comment below! I’m always looking for more ways to look at the big picture and improve myself as a leader to my family.

Be a leader in your home 

Simon Sinek says in Leaders Eat Last: Why Some Teams Pull Together and Others Don’t:

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.”

I believe all parents are leaders. Find your WHY as a parent and a leader. Believe me, long term change will be much more lasting if you create a why for your brain to motivate you to do something you’ve never done before.

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